With sadness and appreciation for a life well lived, Trent College reflects on the passing of Old Trident Nigel John Nussey, a man remembered for his steadiness of character, quiet humour and deep care for others.

Born on 31 January 1946 in Blackheath, London, Nigel grew up as the much-loved son of Margaret and John and brother to Joanna, Rhonwen and Rachel. Even in childhood he displayed the gentle humour and independent thinking that friends would recognise throughout his life; thoughtful, observant and never seeking attention, yet always memorable.

Nigel joined Trent College as a pupil in Wortley House, where he quickly became a valued member of the school community and later served as a Wortley House Prefect. He embraced school life fully, distinguishing himself as both a keen sportsman and an accomplished musician, achieving Grade 8 in both flute and organ. Those who knew him at school recall a steady, principled young man who preferred action to words and friendship to fuss, qualities that would remain constant throughout his life.

After Trent, Nigel attended catering college in Manchester and worked in hotels in London and the Isle of Man. During this time, he performed an act that perfectly illustrated his character: he jumped into the Thames at Richmond to rescue a woman in difficulty, something he rarely mentioned afterwards. For Nigel, doing the right thing required no recognition.

His career then took him to sea in 1966 when he joined Union-Castle Line as a Junior Purser, rising to Second Purser and travelling widely, including voyages to South Africa. He later worked for Townsend Thoresen and subsequently for P&O in Human Resources, where he remained a dedicated, principled and respected colleague until his retirement in 2004.

Beyond his professional life, Nigel found lasting happiness with Sheila, beginning with a simple dog walk in the New Forest and growing into a partnership spanning over four decades, celebrated in marriage in October 2024. He embraced family life wholeheartedly, caring deeply for relatives and friends alike. He loved cooking and entertaining, relished good conversation and debate, and stood firmly by his sense of fairness.

In retirement, golf became a treasured pastime at Wickham Park Golf Club, and he enjoyed travelling, particularly to South Africa, Barbados and France. Throughout, he remained a loyal supporter of the Trent Foundation bursary fund, reflecting his enduring appreciation for the opportunities his Trent College education had provided and his wish to help future pupils benefit in the same way.

Nigel faced illness in recent years.  In 2023, he was diagnosed with cancer and despite the relief of being given the all clear in 2024, the illness returned in September 2025. He will be remembered as a man with a kind heart, a sharp wit, strong values and a quiet strength. Someone who loved his family deeply, who cared for people in his own understated way and who brought warmth and humour wherever he went.

The Trent community extends its sincere condolences to Sheila and all members of Nigel’s family.